Anxiety is a normal part of life; therefore, it is likely
that most people experience anxiety at some point in their lives. Anxiety
keeps us alert and helps us cope in every stressful event or situation. But,
there is a type of anxiety that is common to men when we talk about sexual
issues- menís sexual anxiety.
Menís sexual anxiety affects their performance
in bed. This issue is hardly ever discussed openly for fear of losing their
macho-image. Maleís sexual performance anxiety is described when a man has
trouble getting an erection.
Men who have sexual performance anxiety usually worry
about whether they will get a penile erection. When they are about to have
sex, they may lose their erection, or it can also happen during sexual intercourse.
anxiety can happen to men in any of those situations. This is
often from focusing just on the final goal, or on whether your partner will
have an orgasm, instead of
focusing on all the rest of what goes on in the sexual encounter.
Concentrating more on the relationship and the intimate experiences that you
are having may help alleviate some anxiety. Remember, if you are
enjoying yourself and showing appreciation and consideration for your
partner, you will both probably have a great time!
There are actually a large number of different
treatments, as far as sexual performance is concerned. One of the treatments
targets the erectile dysfunction (ED) known as the sensate focus technique.
It consists of a series of four stages.
The first thing that you will learn is how to
stop focusing on the outcome and worrying about whether or not you
climax ahead or satisfy your partner to reach that first. Instead
concentrate on what the sensory stimulation is like, savor the actual moment
of being stimulated, and find out what are the ways in which you can reach pleasure each other.
These will take your anxiety off of whatís
going to happen at the end.
Once youíre through with that stage, move on
to the second where youíll be caressing, touching, and communication with
clothes off. The third stage is actually being inside your partner but no
thrusting, and the last stage is now the thrusting. But, the focus is on the
sensations (also called sensate focus).
Analytical therapy, which is psychotherapy or psychoanalysis
using hypnosis, can be very effective in dealing with more deep-seated
problems that most men have. Though ED and other sex interferences can have
biological causes, many of the problems are psychological. Hypnosis can
reduce sexual performance anxiety to promote a more relaxed and confident
sense of self, optimize self-esteem, happiness and boost self confidence.
Another remedy is prescription drug treatments therapy.
There are two major types of erectile dysfunction drugs. One type
works via the brain, and the other enhances blood flow directly to the genitalia.
Your physician can best inform you of the differences and help you decide if
this may be appropriate for you.
Men sexual performance anxiety is one of the issues that
are not very popularly discussed publicly. The reasons of menís sexual
performance anxiety are either the result of how they feel or because of
genital erectile dysfunction. Whatever the reasons maybe, sexual performance
anxiety is usually curable!